Not until we can start counseling and actually get some help with our relationship. Maybe you can do that for him. To be more gentlemanly like in front of her like I used to be. This began to break her down into depression and now, about a year later, she tells me she no longer has any feeling for me. I am trying my absolute best to save my relationship. I still say he has feelings for his ex and wants her. Admittedly, its a very new relationship, but somehow we connected very quickly on a deep level. But I had left town. So I thought maybe hes right. Our relationship is long distance. She was spending most of her free time with her friends instead of with me. He is giving hundreds of reasons and wants me to trust him and believe that we will be together. Tyler, I mean therapy! Its only been four days since the end of my relationship of 9yrs. After futile attempts to try to get her back Im now in place where Im trying to increase my awareness of how I feel and my emotional intelligence. It ruined everything. It was because a stranger at the airport asked me for directions and according to my boyfriend I wasnt very useful to him as my sense of directions isnt great so I should have asked him for help instead of giving answer myself. I love this man really do I know I need to open up more.he needs to be at home with me be sweet my man is really hard on me he gets upset cause I dont talk to him about my goals or plans BUT I dont have any that he doesnt know. After all, once you know, you can work within these relationships to maximize your happiness and spiritual growth. But he still talks to her as a friend. She said she never really loved the guy but he divorced her within a few months of marriage. Im jealous, controlling, irrational and I accuse him all of the time of being unfaithful again, and it has pushed him away. I felt like he didnt care when he just didnt know how to react. I realize I have questioned everything he does and turned around everything he said. Robert, there are two missing pieces here: First of all, you have a therapist and Im wondering what he/she is saying. After all, you've invested a lot of time and resources in your marriage. My friend recently told me that she felt bad that she felt great without me and wanted to eventually have a discussion with me (with time). I really mean intimacy: Sharing your soul. Arguments were bad. Today we have talked about the situation and I understand that I totally humiliated him in front of our friends plus numerous other people because we were at a club where he is a member. When you both argue, it would be intense and can lead to name-calling and threats of breaking up. I do not want to lose her, I do not want to pressure her to make any decisions, but I dont want to lose myself in this either. He proposed to me at the end of the month and we had plans on getting married until I found out he was still talking to the other woman about a week ago or so. He claims hes a changed man and that he will do anything to prove to me that he really loves me. He is very judgmental and critical on top of it I feel like he only knew how to put me down. I just want to find a way to rekindle this relationship. always remember, for those out there who are in relationships that are struggling, or are working things out, make sure before you say something, you think before you speak, install a filter between your lips and your tongue so to speak, because if you choose to say something hurtful, you can never take it back and the damage caused by what you assume is just a simple word is far more destructive and painful long term. Then I would take that information and have a heart to heart talk about your sex life with your husband and where you want to go. Hi Mummy No amount of anger management will address these basic issues. And voila! She feels like she is having a break down trying to pretend that things are ok, and live up to everyones expectations of her and how she should be. He thinks Im really that mean,fussy, negative and everything else person that he had seen all these years. Knowing what you value will help you build the most meaningful life possible. It is necessary for a couple to understand this and this problem should be healed before marriage. He admitted to being shocked the first time it occurred yet on the second time he turned towards her to accept her kiss. I never felt anything like it. I would guess there was something bad in your background that this triggers.like maybe a parent walking out or something? Ask her if shes willing to go ice skating with you Does he approach problems with more thought and care than before? She could barely bring herself to hug me and a kiss was not even possible. And whatever it was you did (if anything) may not have been as wrong. Thank you. I NEED HELP or at least some insight. My husband and I married very young, he was immature and after the birth of my son I was still over weight and exhausted and didnt take care of myself. Any advice would be much appreciated. Keep things fresh and exciting by having a theme for your first date. Especially since it is only recently in which Ive started to figure out who I really am, beyond the grasp of my controlling family and safety blanket. He said that Ive lost him completely for good. What can you do? She wont start counseling for another 3 weeks because she is too busy at her new job. We had a huge fight and I told him this was the last straw, we were both becoming distant from each other. If he were too secure, he would not have contacted you again. Circumstances made me go back to Russia while she got help for her physcological. My girlfriend recently left me and I cant seem to get over it. Spark a Love Connection Thats how I use to be but I eventually swallowed my pride and Id just tell her how I feel. For me its these small things that warm my heart. Help. So he took the car, picked them up & gave them a lift home. They'll stick up for and defend friends who treat them terribly time and time again. A few months after I nursed my grandmother until she died, and my son recently had a bad mva and broke his back. When he changed and became loyal, then you were not in love with him. she said she cannot let go of what happened in the past and that is partially why she feels this way today. Im now at a point that my feelings for him are not the same and my affection and attraction is not there. i would send him msgs but he would just ignore replying me or he replys in ashort way with out trying to find out how i was like he used to do. Its Maria Dr. Deb and I answered your question about how could he have GROWN TO NOT LIKE ME? I cut off the other person before my wife learned about the situation because I had learned that I already had everything at home I could want. If the bad stuff was present and the good stuff was missing, then what I recommend you do is sit down with your husband and discuss it. Problems with my ex and our children made me so low I reverted to drugs. Therefore, the best thing for you to do is work on gaining security and self love. So now I am in touch with the one but have interactions with my husband as he still sees the children frequently (they are quite young). But a crush on someone else doesnt help one bit. About a year and a half later they started talking again on Facebook. I trusted him. I dont know what to think. So I thought maybe hes right. We are both in our early 20s and I think Im too young to have this kind of stress in my life and so is he. But my boyfriend and i decided to try and fix things. God wants you to love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who hurt you, and turn the other cheek. (And thats no fault of yours.) Remind him that he OWES you something, but when you talk with him, be CHEERFUL, not sad. eventually, I came to my senses and told her how I felt. Needless to say I am pregnant again, miserable, and up with my SN daughter since 3 bc he feels entitled to smoke pot and play games till early in the morning. When we first started dating all was well until he started showing me this other side of him he didnt show before I had started to open up to him. He dun have a good marriage and thus treat me very good and lovingly.All these years with him, I always remind myself he is a married man and I cant get myself into this rs( relationship) . I found this article because I realized what I was doing to the guy I planned to marry. Whats the upside of this difficult process? We all respond differently to being hurt and rejection is tough to deal with. My boyfriend of 2 years has left me. I love this girl with all my heart and I did not mean to hurt her. Recently I told him that I wasnt emotionally or mentally ready to get married at this time-I know it broke his heart and it broke mine too. Instead she disrespects me further and deeper and not being reasonable for a second. I feel really bad. I later found out he was supposedly at his mothers for the 2.5 days and then took off out of town to a casino for the weekend. Do you have any recommendations on how to go about re-gaining trust from her? According to experts, it's totally possible to fall back in love with someone you used to date, and the reason why makes sense. Since then, they no longer talk. On and off and I figured that its because I have my guard up and because he hurt me. help. Thats why she kept coming to me. Hi Bambi He says he forgives me and has moved on. I desperately wanted his love but only if freely given. I literally do anything and everything for this man but he would not lay with me. So those are 3 areas to work on in therapy. You met in your senior year. Dr. Deb Im a controlling wife thats why my husband told me that he dont love me anymore . Did I miss her within the 9 months? But he can also fall back IN love, too! I didnt want to be like my father and since I finally realized what I was doing, I was able to significantly control my anger from then onward. I took leave at the end of 2013 & went to work at my husbands business, doing administration for him when I stumbled across our high mobile phone bills on a shared contract. He hugged me when he left to go out of town. But not even giving it a go is just ridiculous! And I said I was there for two weeks and they said thats why he blocked me. If this may be what is going on, then therapy to start to feel good about yourselves, deep inside and also to learn to trust the ones you love so well that you CAN open up to who you really are is the ticket. If I hurt him, Im sure my behavior could lead to hurting friends and family if I dont change for the better. What I found most interesting about was u said was that I dont love his character? Suddenly, her love turned to hate. Eventually we both found out about the other. Several years later he was talking to my son and said that he saw a girl he had gone to school with and had he known she would end up looking like that. He is a wonderful consious man and very independent. Recently we almost broke up but decided to work through things and be better for each other. What should i do? I was in a very dark place about the pregnancy, but I also know that was only an excuse after a while. He said he wasnt sure. However, if you would like to talk about this or any other concern with a mental health professional, please feel free to return to our homepage, https://www.goodtherapy.org/, and enter your zip code into the search field to find therapists in your area. I was once an avid reader & someone who found such peace in hand knitting or in the simple gift of watering our garden & knowing the relief it brought to our plants. So to what am I doing I could ask you the same one of my doing and I crazy to continue to hold on hoping and praying and I have a very strong faith in my religion he does not. He has stopped drinking and will continue to. I would think that he would see how much I still love him and forgive him despite his wrongs through my actions but I dont even know at this point. In the past 7 months I have had two miscarriages due to birth control failing, the first one I didnt know about until after the fact and the second one I found out and stopped taking my birth control, just to see if it would matter even though I pretty much knew it wouldnt and may have said I wished it was just overwith, moreso meaning if nature was going to take its course then I would rather it be sooner than later, since he has wanted to really try for a baby and I dont really want to which makes him mad. No matter how much technology has advanced over centuries, this trick still remains relevant today because it never fails to put a smile on any womans face, which will then automatically put both you and her at ease. Move on!! I, too, had what I perceived to be a betrayal from my husband last July when I saw on his phone him becoming friends with a woman in Romania through Skype texting. But one night i got really drunk, and Im a mean drunk. But I did what I had to do in writing and verbally. i have been in a relationship since 2years . And is it possible for us to fall in love again? It comes as no news to you that you can wind up loving and hating someone the same time when they have broken your heart into a million pieces. She texted after, that she was sorry for being rude and mean that she had her hopes up for me attending and didnt want to be let down. Every other fight we have, he breaks up with me, annoying, and he calls me names that are really hurtful. Since I really dont know his side, the only advice I can give is get into therapy asap. I often recommend therapy not because a person is sick but sometimes it is just good to get insight from an outsider. My husband and I have been together for 11 years. Can you give me a few words of advise? I didnt know that he was getting hurt by this and that Im not meeting his needs when it comes to loving him. There are times when I think that this is a possibility and times when it is not. Man that sounds identical to my story for the most part. I must listen, instead of talk. the disrespect continued and many other emotionally damaging things happened over the next several years. I wonder if he can ever fall in love with me again. I judged and shamed and manipulated her without really even thinking about it. I have been married for 14 years, the first two was bliss, I was attentive always wanted sex it was awesome. I should have stop him but I didnt. We have two young daughters and so the thought of divorce also causes me great anxiety. When we would fight, it would be legitimate, and itd be resolved in a calm, kind hearted manner. But if he turns out to be the father I dont know if I should stay or go? Like really how this lady who just came in my husband life gone tell me how MY HUSBAND is going think or feel. My BF and I have been together for 6 years have 2 kids together. My questions are these, can she fall back in love with me? I met a guy you loved me from last 5 years but told me last year . She scurried off and got dressed, and when I asked what had happened he said he touched her because it looked like she needed it. Thats your first step to rekindle your relationship (if at all you are sincere). Any suggestions, you think we can get back together, what we need to do, to felt in love again or gain his love back again ,is very difficult for me.I feel very sad and is hard for me to let go, with out trying ,emotional not doing good. Her and her bf have been together for 7 years now. Being around them is oftentimes unbearable because our love for them is so strong yet we can't express them. He is being patient with me as I battle these emotions that he has created. Her mom tells me that my wife stills loves me. Out of blue she called me this Monday February 20 early in the morning on my way to work. I keep trying to tell him that honestly that was not my true self and I can show him the true Maria. My boyfriend and I have been together almost two years now, and weve gone through a lot (my parents disapprove of him and kept us apart.) We fell in love and she broke from those two relationships, but I think I must have harbored resentment from that dificult transition that took a year, because our relationship has been stressed. do you know anything about love ?? I have a feeling he is going through some sort of emotional crisis, like a breakdown. When we first met and also 3 years into the relationship she loved me then but then saw changes in me. I didnt tell him i went outside when my friend was showering. we talked some more about how she felt because her communication with me is not the best, she likes to keep things inside. I dont know what to make of it. Please help. As a result, lied and deceived me over the last 5 years. She says as of right now we are not together but she doesnt know what the future holds for us. Are you not satisfied? I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years now. I decided not to go back to my moms after that (for many reasons, though I will admit he was one of them) and I stayed with family for a few weeks until he convinced me to stay with him and his cousin. One of the reasons for our problems was his difficulty in finding a job in our home country. We argue about money a lot which I think is probably normal for a lot of couples. Eventually, I discovered that his actions did not change. 3 years ago when we first began to get to know each other, he hurt me really bad. Part two: How you feel about the other person. I married a wonderful man who would have given me the world but unfortunately as soon as we married and came back from our honeymoon it seemed like night and day. We talked a lot over that night and the next day and we finally agreed to try and not let what happened be a setback. Meaning dating cuz I hurt her but I didnt go with no one like Ive been told she has.and if thats happened I wont be able. I have been away from drugs for a few years now and over the last 6 months have tyred to talk with more about what went on and that this person being me that was under the influence made mistakes I live with to this day. I also have put up barrel and I am a very strong lady that I know going through the process will hurt but, staying here is hurting more. I would never never hit anyone or had cheated but all this had made her feel scared of me. Acknowledging her appearances and successes and failures. I didnt want to move away and be alone while dealing with issues in our relationship. He was never like this before , the type to cheat. I guess the reason she cheated because I was sort of distancing myself because of school. You should go to AlAnon to learn more, too. He was never physically unfaithful, not even emotionally he more so entertained the idea, which in my mind is just as bad because it could lead to anything. For him, saying I was leaving was the final straw. Neither of us have a history of cheating or doing such thing. You have to watch yourself very carefully not to inadvertently enable your husband. On that one, He was trying to hook up for sex with a woman, 3 months after we started dating. Thats good you are in therapy. I told him we really needed to work on communication, and trust, but we cant work on those things if were not together. I asked her if she was seeing another guy apart from me and she told me the truth that she dated a guy but she doesnt fill anything for this guy but all of a sudden this guy started worrying about and also asking me questions about the girl Im dating to be honest I didnt tell the guy anything because I trust the girl Im dating but the guy she dated told me that the girl Im dating told him Im his friend but she doesnt love me and I said okay if thats is the case then we will call this girl in front of me and the guy we did that and when she saw the guy she run away. My husband feels disrespected and made a fool of because I didnt take control of the situation. My new course will most likely help. Im confused because do I leave him be meaning dont talk to him,do his laundry,cook for him or anything else or do I continue to do all of that and more so he can see Ive change for the better. But that day when we bought my computer, I decided not to tell my boyfriend precisely because I dont want him to think that Im going out too much with my friend. Im doing this because I dont live like this anymore. No support from family or anyone else. Dear Dr, It may be a struggle at first but if you are strong you will make it. I dont know what to do anymore. When your ex- sees you as completely changed and she, too, is stronger and healed, then there are possibilities. What is going on?? All purchases are on my bill. Love is the only thing that is Real. Why do you love a person who is avoiding you? Dont know what they were doing. Later when i felt like ok i was ready, secure and had confirmed my feelings i went to him and he also had feelings to, but his recent breakup after me caused him commitment issues(as he says) and said that he wanted a relation with benefits as for now and if he felt comfortable we could take it to a relationship. He is not a doer. He said weve been together forever and I know you inside/out. Dear Dr. About 3 and a half years ago I lied to her about my brother dying. When I started dating my girlfriend, she went back to her ex and they kissed. Night before she texts me that its formal. Will Smith. Her Emotional Affair has all but destroyed me and when I confronted her on 1/1/2015 by asking her who she would be talking to at 2AM in the morning for 2 hours, her reply a Friend I picked up the car keys and went for a drive. Please help me with my post from sept 15th number 176. In functional relationships, the ambivalence tends to be short-lived. However, speaking of texts, he used to text me first thing in the morning. He made me feel happy again. These are question he needs to hear. Ive recognized many of the things here, including not validating her enough, not making her feel accepted or adored and supported, and many other shortcomings I feel guilty for in oversight. But you do have to understand that since I am crazy busy, if people want to jump in and help each other, then I dont need to always weigh in. Ever since I caught them, she confessed and has been feeling very guilty. I do work by Skype, myself. I I had an affair with an old friend that lasted about 2 months but I stayed in contact with this person on a friendly basis. How do we both go about getting trust back? One year down the line.. he started liking his job, he settled in finally.. but the attitude towards me did not change. I am in need of some advise, desperately. I want to, and soon! When we met we were both in open relationships, so this was a mutual interest of ours. I just dont understand her anymore. Now all his money just goes there and he gives me a little bit from each check. I was angry at her at first then went to begging all in the course of the same day. So i ignored her text until 2 days later and replied No. I slowly over come it but it comes back now and then. Why not give it 6 months and see? I really felt i was losing him and I think thats what led me to meet up with the other man last year. he is always at her house evryday of the week sometimes when i talk about it he would do better and then go right back into the old ways. Knowing the other person, genuinely knowing, is the cornerstone of intimacy. He said he would. He then ask me not to contact him anymore . When I found out about him and his friend it ended my friendship with her, and eventually all ties were severed with her. Is this simply my own fault for leaving the room? Should I stop worrying myself to death and just trust him, then deal with the repercussions if something does happen? First of all, I respect you for recognizing that you mistreated your girlfriend. Things were going pretty well after that. I was very hurt and confused but after long talks we decided to stay together and move with his parents to a new state, thousands of miles away from my family. Hate is a very strong word, people generally confuse disliking someone with hatred quite often. What if its the total opposite though? I have been always telling her no when she asks to go out. Fortunately, the sporadic bouts of hate you may experience when your beloved's habits and behaviors get on your nerves can coexist with your love for him or her. She claims they are innocent, friends tell friends, I love you all the time, she says. I seemed to always get upset and yell at him. What is NOT appealing is being desperate. So, yes, I answer but no, I dont always comment. I do want her back and will try to get her back once Im 100 percent. I know that we each individually have to work on ourselves and make progress but the way she is dealing with things right now I wonder if there is a future for us. You dont really love him; you feel needy. You get a clear, bright, and shiny message of validation of yourself as a person. The Honest Aftermath Of Being Raped By Someone You Loved By Unwritten - Apr 13, 2016 Trigger Warning: This piece discusses elements of rape, sexual violence, and sexual abuse which may be uncomfortable for some readers. Am welling to fight back, but i feel hes is not trying to put the effort into getting back together. He was extremely inexperienced, and kept things from me for awhile about him doing things with other girls (one was returning with hickeys after the night he was supposed to break up with the other girl he was dating because we had decided to be monogamous. It is pain that will not go away because a person loves you, unfortunately. Now he wont forgive me. This affair has gone on for 3 months and although we have tried to break it off we keep failing to stay out of contact. He did every thing for me and my kids. We laughed and danced and celebrated with friends. I have developed a very intense course in all of this which will shorten the process, but the bottom line is that until you have gone through what I describe above, you havent really worked through these past issues. Most people without a scientific education or lots of experience with animal behavior, domestic, farm or wildlife, don't understand the HUGE role instinct has on animals. Idk really know him. May I suggest you go to a couples therapist so as to (a) help him understand you and (b) develop the strength to gently point out to his mom that your relationship comes first. Im so lost. Spark a Love Connection I met the love of my life 3 years ago back in high school. We have been together for almost 4 years and were living together for 2.5. Finally, everything feel apart lady night when she said she would see me on condition that I give her some money. I dont know what to do? This means that it is the perfect opportunity for your date to see what kind of man you really are because if she sees that you can relax, then theres a good chance she will as well. It is possible for a person to change. On the other hand there are people who cheat once theyre married. Sometimes, he says hes not justifying what he did, but makes statements out of frustration that sound like justification. We had been together 9 months and things werent always perfect but I was so in love with him. It has to be about you, not him/her, this time around. The general reaction of abusive people is that this is all they know and think its normal. To get him to even realize that there are things he should want to work on is to hold out the carrot of happiness. I always believe in the carrot over the stick. It felt like we lived in a safe nest away from the harshness of the world. I really do love her and Ive owned up and apologized. The beauty of a movie date is that you can sit back and enjoy an hour or two without having to do any work at all. He says I dont act like a girlfriend sometimes and that hurts. Until the time arrived for him to choose between two different jobs, one in his country and one in the country where I live. How does one silence ones mind to the jumbled thoughts which run continuously through my conscious mind & threaten to drown me? In January of the following year stupidly I told my stepsons ex-girlfriend that I used to have a crush on her. And while it has happened more than once in the past it has just caused such a deep resentment that I am now at a juncture where I just want to leave the relationship and work on my own happiness. And i said thank you so much for everything. Does anyone feel this way too? No more time for me. However I am a cheater. Then ask him how you can make it up to him. When it started. But lets suppose Im right: You fantasize how life would be with this guy. 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