This is why people end up divorced, no boundaries are ever respected. I was so relieved when we moved 3 hours away to stay with other family that doesnt allow dogs. I dont believe it is actually the dogs fault, although Ive grown out of love with him and more into extreme dislike, one because Ive always been a bit allergic, he makes me itchy, and he smells like foot fungus the two get me frustrated and grossed out. My bf humanizes his goldendoodle and does not set any boundaries for him. I hate how this one barks when someone comes to the door. And I saw a post on here that another womans husband doesnt spend time with the baby but time with the dog and I really dont want that to happen. He constnstly wines for food and my mans attention! So knowing this was a temporary situation it was ok with my partner. Teach it right and it will learn respect and maybe he wont be jealous anymore if he is then leAve him. At this point, I feel like her dog dictates our relationship. We know that by any means, we shouldnt let a kid and untrained dog be alone. There is a lack of respect of others in a situation like this. If a dog is never bathed, you are going to really have the dog smell and even worse when they are bigger dogs! Its all about compromising and some women cant get everything they want just like men. I am an animal lover of all kinds. I said I knew he wasnt keen on yappy, exuberant dogs but having seen him fuss and cuddle my parents dogs and my friends puppy, how could I think he was scared of them? Reasons why does your husband/boyfriend wants to get rid of the dog? They would lay quietly on their beds in our living room and maintain a respectful distance when ever a meal was served. I hope she knows she will always be my girl and no man will ever change that. One of my cats is quiet heavy 20lbs and when he runs he makes a lot of noise and it sounds like the floors are being tear to pieces but its only ninor scratches & dents. The thing is, i told her hes ok at the foot of the bed, i dont mind him on the bed if hes there and i had been telling her for 3 months to start training him but she jokingly would refuse to do so. Just want to offer some advice, because I have many years of experience with dogs of varying temperaments: When you get annoyed at a dog, just remember, dogs do NOT have human emotions! Hes been through tons of owners and they have all given up on him. What?!?! Im not opposed to the dog, i actually like him, but the sleeping arrangement is troublesome for me. Regardless the animal was never trained properly and she has no intentions of attempting to do so. As it is, he would come if I said I really wanted some company, but would make it abundantly clear that he doesnt like the dog and would take no pleasure in the experience making me feel miserable. Because he hates dog hair even though whenever My dog did come to my boyfriends with me he would have to stay outside. I have to disagree. Both of you need to get a hold of yourselves and purchase of beds for the good of the dogs and your relationship. Ive read about this more and more myself realizing that its a real problem with some people that just cant distinguish their four legged animal from a human being. people need to act like people. But for now my house is a slight zoo. Also this puppy is a Pitbull and my partner knows Im scared of these types of dogs. Now, Im an animal lover but more into cats or small dogsyou can pick them up and they dont drool! She chews the carpet and the doors. Doesnt take much effort. He does nothing with his dog but cater over it. I actually use to really enjoy his dogs company, but ever since my fianc and I moved in together (this being our first time living together), I see things a little bit more clearly when it comes to the dog. I love my dog and it hurts me when I see him getting treated this way while I try to treat both of them fair. Hire a dog trainer: Sometimes, the issue is nothing to do with socialization. Good marriages (and relationships) dont just happen. I dislike this dogs disposition and annoying attributes but I can deal with that. Tying the damn creature to a pole doesnt help, because the stupid creature keeps trying to kill itself on the leash as it tries to struggle out of it. We have 3 dogs, the youngest being his. He Wont Get Rid Of His Dog, Should I Break Up With Him? Animals arent playthings who can be discarded when the novelty wears off. Not only that she forgets how to carry herself as a married woman when shes out and around people. Then you have the ones who have damn near accused me of animal cruelty because we crate our dog when we have guests. My husband was a traveler and barely home so he insisted I get a cat(I am a cat lover, he is a dog lover). Does your husband/boyfriend need to get rid of the dog? I seriously believe its a sort of mental illness that needs to be addressed! I am sorry! My dog doesnt go in the bedroom or the study, only the living room and the kitchen. This is a lab by the way so not a small dog. if the puppy pees I get yelled at. What is the glue that is holding them together? Playing with the kids, running along as they rode their bikes? Just picture when you have kids. Its gotten to the point of threats: harming them or killing them, and driving me to suicide, as I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. Well this is a problem for me seeing as how I love my dogs so much. She constantly is dropping her slobbery toys in my lap. Also dogs are so unique and versatile in all ways I dont think some people deserve them. Theyre fed custom-cooked food using expensive whole meat. This is, if she had the ONE dog and didnt have it take precedence over her relationship and obsess about it then it wouldnt really be an issue but I ended up disliking the dog(s) because of her attitude with them. So that's cleaning up after it, walking it, doing the training, and most importantly making sure the dog doesn't destroy my garden that I've spent thousands of dollars on. This is why he isnt allowed in the upstairs area of our house, and hes definitely not allowed on our furniture. So I am left with training the dog, feeding her, taking her out etc..and Training her has been very hard on me. The reality is MUCH different! A little back story, my SO at the time also use to be a bit of a junkie and didnt really have a sense of self or respect. Unlike your family your dog never disagrees with you, no matter how wrong you are, because it has no idea what you are talking about. Who shed heavily and leave pee in the bed and black stuff on the pillows?? Your householders have allergies to dogs. If my husband would meet me halfway and at least hold the baby long enough for me to take the dog out then he wouldnt have the occasional accident now. He tried keeping his dog in the pen with my dog but I stopped that bc his dog was peeing everywhere in the pen & would lay on my dogs potty pad! If she didnt get her way, shed start washing her private area for a very, very, long time. In fact, You will receive an abundance of complaints from the neighbors about your dogs loudness. It jumps on dinner table begging for food and has scratched the couch to death( we had to get a new cover for the couch) i tried to accept it and invested my time in training it, it responded and stopped doing the bad things for a while but my husband messed with its brains by deliberately putting her on the couch/bed and giving it treats on the couch inspite of me pleading not to, that the cat has gone back to its despicable behaviour. Go out and shoot him?!? The dog is constantly shoved down my throat, we cannot go anywhere with out the dog, and cannot plan a vacation or anything else that does not allow pets, his whole world is around that dog. As for the dog thing and spreading bacteria, the only dog (or cat) disease that Ive ever heard of thats communicable to humans is Rabies. Im in a high security high stress job. So much for having a dog for company. You deserve a warm man in your bed who physically and emotionally loves you. It was really never about the dog, it was about the man. He pays more attention to the dog than our baby. Even after surgeries I have had, he has refused to take the dog out and I would have to with me barely able to move. My bf wants to feed it HUMAN FOOD (not suppose to) The thing, gets diarrhea every once in a while. It really does feel like Im both second string and maid. Its not about choosing a dog over someone, its about being too different. No longer walking with anxiety over the man-dog/wife relationship. Its recommended not to let him walk off-leash and roam. Recently married to a wonderful man, baby girl on the way and currently living the life in a wonderful relationship except one thing His dog. I didn't think much of who cared for biscuit at the time simply because it wasn't none of my business. Its embarrassing, humiliating, and I cant understand it at all. They cant see pass their own noses. Just disturbing. So, your significant other has a dog, and youve told them that its either the dog or you. I have to constantly hear the yipping/squealing of the one dog who has chronic ear infections and of course my husband will take it to the vet only to get ear cream that no one puts in! She would rather share the bed with her dog than me Crazy eh? My wifes stupid dog (125lb German Shepherd) attacked our son and she STILL lets him around our son when I leave the house. I get answers like oh but its like a child. Last nite she made the comment to a friend who was here that it was my life and thats how I choose to live it and she cant do anything about it,. An animal however lives by loyalty. Anyhow if you have to rehome the dog, dont just look for a shelter. It takes some longer than others but you cannot let them run a mock and if he sets and KEEPS the boundaries without whining about it and accepts it wholeheartedly, then things can move forward. So I tell her she was very rude and selfish for leaving me with the dog and that I wasnt going to care for it and she needed to find someone who was going to. In Mistys case it is pretty obvious that the man has a codependent relationship with his dog; he has made it clear to her that the animal is his priority and he is unwilling to change for the sake of developing a relationship with her. And thats the rub. Here are why your dog might poop inside the house. ! It is ludicrous to fault someone and say well you knew she had a dog. So sad. Most recurring mouth sores are herpes virus related. The smaller ones can stay fresher longer but if you need to wash them its quick and easy. You need to either leave the boyfriend, or give the dog to a family or owner who will care for the dog and not mistreat it. So she peed all night in front of my daughters door. so I dog sat once for the weekend and I love dogs as well but not the same undisciplined way some humans are with their dogs. One of the dogs is constantly trying to steal food from the table, the kitchen, out of my purse. This is getting out of control. I like his cat. Because she is his mothers dog, his guilt overrides things like discipline. She wants to please and have my approval, and I researched ways to train, so I think most bad dogs have bad lazy owners. My other two cats are female and get along almost all the time but have a fight once in a while that I have to break up and I get scratched. Recently we found out the friends he left his dog with werent taking good care of the dog. I can live with that. I HATE THIS DOG! When you do your relationship with your dog and SO will be alot more successful. I am so stressed over this :( Can I put my foot down and tell him I want to live with the 2 of us without the stress of dogs? The reality of relationships is, you really need two fairly like-minded people for them to be a success, at least certainly when it comes to day-to-day lifestyle. But the dread of sharing my living space with a dog has started to chip at the excitement of having a baby with the woman I love. But if they refuse to change and work on the problems with the animal.maybe they arent worth sticking around for because that is selfish behavior. Why was your ex not a good man as youve implied? New life. At this point my husband has basically given up on the dog and all responsibilities are on me. Mind you my husband NEVER helps me with the dog. It was hard saving money, but I did it. I know what you mean about having people out there that understand. If you do so, you will see a huge improvement within a week or two. He never does it when someone is in the house so we rarely catch him doing it. You are so right Pip. Well that lasts for about a minute as well. Read this article in order to educate yourself on how to stop a Doberman from barking. Do we need to find a compromise however? He doesnt want to get rid of the dogs even though Ive calmly discussed how hes putting his feelings before mine & care more about his desire. I have prayed He would take her. I cant tolerate this dog anymore but I know it will break my husbands heart. How is this going to work with 2 dogs?! I hope all of you never have any REAL problems to contend with in life, and have the sense to realise that to be with a selfish and nasty partner who seems to think of nothing other than how things affect HIM is no way to live! Firstly, she has a medium sized dog that is a complete house dog. ..please i need advice. No. The Japanese Chin has bitten nine other people that include young children and adults and most of those bites have broken the skin. I loved them, played with them, protected and cared for them, but they never usurped my relationship with a member of my family or a man. She sheds 24/7 and no this is not an exaggeration. My neatness has turned to total anxiety. I dont want to smell like dog and I dont want my furniture, sheets, or anything else to smell like dog. He had his dog of not even a year. And the noise pierces my ears it is so HIGH. My husband does his own laundry, but seriously how can he sleep in the bed after the dog urinates in it? It was a very easy life to live with him and I loved him very much! He got to keep his and i felt it unfair. I volunteer in animals shelters.. and it is nice to be able to get the animal fix of missing my dogs and cats by doing that.. If I had to do it over, I would not. Aggressive to other pets in your household and other dogs. Like I was abusing the dog! B its not that bad, it comes right off clothes easily w a soft cloth. The day she was put into an assisted living home the dogs came to our house with no discussion between us. Your dog affects your partner. We are excited/terrified but both incredibly happy to be one parents. So, she did depend on them and treated them like humans (something she even admitted she has to stop doingtreating them like humans). She literally reduces the home value, all so she can run around and beg for food. My SO doesnt want her outside and cant manage to find the time to train her. My husband has forced me to hate dogs. But my dogs have never slept in my room. I find it so upsetting when people equate dogs to children. Educate yourself about puppy blues: For that, we have an extensive guide written by a veterinarian Dr. Pavithra and here is the article: How long do puppy blues last and how to overcome? What I wanna emphasize to you is that your family is a pack. He told me to tell him what to do and that he would wear an earplug to protect his ear but he doesnt always want to live up to that promise and starts yelling at the dog again. I have come to find out that nothing keeps it at bay. It was a horrific story about having chased and clubbed a possum to death and set it on fire afterwards while on an exchange period in the US when he was 19, saying that it resulted from peer pressure from the racist and homophobic guys he was hanging around with at that point. Go on the couch, eat his food, go in our bedroom and climb on our bed. I can completely relate! :\ I would tell him wheres my kiss and hug? It creeped around corners, wouldnt go anywhere without surveying the situation. Im Italian, I react! As human beings, we know that if my dog has a particular health issue, we need to treat it as soon as possible. Otherwise, the dog was great. What do you think, am I being unreasonable for putting my foot down and say I dont want them when behaving like this? He scratches people, pisses on the floor to get peoples attention. He asked me to just become okay with fur. My bfs dog (hes never had pets & bought the dog for his kids when he & his ex wife divorced bc he thought it would make the divorce easier for the kids.I know, terrible idea! I could never get used to those gross drooly dogs but tried a relationship with a dog but it just doesnt work. So we tried a spray to make the couch taste bad so she wouldnt do it again. On top of the shedding is the incessant dog smell. ITS always in the way!! Its called triangulation, Sounds like your partner is a narcissist, please join a narcissist support group on Facebook and check for yourself. He would not survive the winter. Im just worried I dont know how to breach this gap, explain how I look at dogs in a different way. Shes a large pit and she cant stand going outside. All I want and preach to other people is compromise and Im still somewhere trying to find that. Maybe you chose the wrong woman to have a puppy with. There isnt. He wants her to sleep in the bed with us but she wakes me up every night pulling my cover so I get up and sleep on the couch. Just because you want to be a furry freak, doesnt mean everyone else should applaud you for it. So, there is no need to change. I think it helped to hear from someone else not in the relationship how ridiculous he was being basically choosing the dog over your significant other. I have pretty much put my foot down and the dog has to stay in her bed all the time. Lady your dog is leading your life. By commenting you acknowledge acceptance of GoodTherapy.org'sTerms and Conditions of Use. She Says its either her and the baby or my dogs. 75 percent of his waking life he is begging for something. I need only to say No and she stops. He only holds her for about 20 mins tops and 2 times a day. We have hair and slobber everywhere in our home that I wind up cleaning on a daily basis and I still absolutely adore this dog. His response to this you can love my dog now. Shame on you for being one of those women. Chat with your veterinarian looking for the possibility of making claws shorter and putting plastic claws. Agree. EVERYONE comments on my fun loving sweet well behaved little Princess..Id rather be single than give her up, cuz shes a good dog. when the dog tried climbing on and continuously this weekend she told the dog off but she just keeps coming back. In fact, its better to invest some money on a fence and have a fenced backyard where the perfect nature to adopt a dog that can let him walk, roam, run, and play on their own with lack of limitations. Dogs are animals! 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